If you are a polyamorous person it n be difficult to find a partner who wants the same thing as you from the beginning. ?It makes the whole process of dating much less messy and stressful if you are on the same page before you form a connection you might have to break.

Luckily there are many online communities and platforms that make meeting non-monogamous people near you fairly easy.

Meetup

The website meetup.com is my all time favorite way to meet others with my tastes. ?If you are in a big city like toronto there is guaranteed to be alot of meetups happening every month.

Typil interview questions to join a polyamory meetup group

Unlike most other meetups, you need to answer some questions and be approved before getting to know the lotion and time of the meeting. ?The reason they do this is pretty obvious, they don’t want a bunch of creepy guys showing up just to meet potentially kinkier women.

The questions ask you to clarify why are you are interested, what polyamory means to you, and if you have read the ‘safer space and behavior guidelines’. ?The guidelines basilly say don’t be creepy and be a normal person.

So it is very important you know what polyamory is and you are not 100% purely chasing sex and disregarding people’s humanity.

Here are two great meetups to get started with in Toronto:

• https://www.meetup.com/Poly-in-Toronto/
• https://www.meetup.com/PolyamoryToronto/

If you are a traveler meetup is another great way to meet people in the area and potentially go on a date. ?During my last trip to Portland Oregon I used the site to find a polyamory meetup and had a great time. ?Especially in a city like Portland, which is known for being a bit more open minded, you n create great memories and lasting relationships on your trip.

OkCupid and Other Dating Sites

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This is another great way to filter out any monogamous people right from the start. ?In fact, OkCupid even has a setting that lets you appear invisible to anyone with a monogamous setting or any other setting. ?I very firmly state in my profile that I am polyamorous and that I have certain ground rules that need to be followed if anything were to get serious.

Despite laying down these ground rules I have still gotten a few clingy people that pretended to know what polyamory really is just to get a date with me. ?However this happened much more in my late teens and early twenties. ?I think as i’ve gotten older its been easier to find more relaxed people in general.

In addition to okcupid you n also give Tinder a try. ?This dosen’t have the great filtering options, but you n just put down in the description that you generally date more than one person etc.

Craigslist

Okay this might sound a little sketchy, but I have heard of people at my meetup having a little bit of success with it. ?The general idea is just to put up a wanted post saying you are looking to meet polyamorous people. ?Include a view pictures as well as whatever else you want the people to know.

Now here is the important part.

You must tell them to include at least five pictures of themselves in any email. ?This will hopefully filter out any weird people looking for sex with no clue what polyamory is. ?From here you n exchange numbers, skype, and maybe eventually meet somewhere and do your thing.

The sex swing is an interesting invention that me and my boyfriend have been trying out lately.

It began with an episode of the show rick and morty where one of the aliens in the dream episode was using a sex swing. ?Next thing we know we were googling and finding out about the underground sex swing world.

Our first attempt was based off a DIY sex swing article on reddit. ?By using some old pairs of jeans, and bolting rope to the ceiling we me up with a fun little beauty. ?Needless to say it broke after two days and we were left looking for a new solution.

A Sex Swing Christmas

I awoke to a surprise Christmas morning with a massive box from my boyfriend Chris. ?In it was a massive sex swing complete with a stand, from the company sls. Using this we finally had a solid sex swing where we could experiment and let our minds run wild.

Favorite Sex Swing Positions

My favorite sex swing position by far is the missionary. ?It lets my hubby have complete control of me with zero friction. ?I like to imagine it is what sex in outer space might be like.

The sex swing has over 100 positions in total. ?Most of these positions are variations on all the positions you are already familiar with: Oral, doggy, squat n bounce. ?They all have a sex swing variation that is like a sex in outer space version.

The sex swing materials are usually a strong polyester-nylon hybrid or a PVC plastic. ?The plastic is nice beuse it is easy to clean, however it comes at the cost of being a little less expensive. ?If you get the polyester-nylon swing dirty, which you will, just throw it in the washing machine and it will be good as new. ?I avoid putting it in the dryer though and just let it dry outside (don’t worry, the neighbors won’t be able to guess what it is)

What is the difference between being polygamous and being polyamorous?

Polygamy is having multiple wifes or spouses and is usually associated with certain cultures or religious groups like fundamental mormons. ?Polyamorous on the other hand is counter culture and focuses on having multiple loving relationships.

Polyamorous

Someone is being polyamorous when they feel love for multiple people. ? This is common in young people who tend to date multiple people at the same time. ?If they adore and become attached to several people at once they are being polyamorous and in polyamorous relationships.

Being polyamorous is about having love for multiple people, not necessarily craving multiple sexual partners. ?In some ses people find that they need more than one person to meet all their intellectual, physil, and emotional needs.

One common ethil concern is that polyamory n often hurt many peoples feelings. ?Someone who is monogomous (the opposite of polyamorous) may deeply love the polyamorous person and get very hurt and jealous when they date other people. ?This is why it is always important to date other polys or be very clear from the beginning that you are not looking for anything too serious.

In the lesbian and feminist communities during the 1970s committed relationships were seen as patriarchal and even Suppressive. ?One solution was open relationships which was a defining characteristic of the movement and seen as feminist and radil.

Polygamy

Polygamy on the other hand is seen as much more radil right and has to do with the suppression of women. ?The most well known polygamists are the fundamental mormon’s who practiced having many wives at once. ?Many times these women had very little rights and were forced to do whatever the man wanted. ? Sometimes these men would marry underage teenagers as well.

One of the original strongholds of polygamy was in Utah, where the Mormon church started taking root in the 1850s. ?For dedes men practiced having multiple wives, but other states did not like this one bit. ?By 1890 the U.S government created a law banning official unions between one person and multiple partners. ?However many people in Utah still practice unofficial polygamous unions. ?In nada there is a severe 5 year prison sentence for anyone ught being married to multiple people at once.

In other countries polygamy is deeply ingrained within the cultural norms. ?For example in Islam and the Muslim religions people n have multiple wives. ?Therefore you will find many Muslim countries in Afri and the middle east fully recognizing polygamous marriages. ?Some diverse countries in Asia also recognize polygamous relationships for their muslim citizens.

countries that allow polygamous marriages are shown in black

So hopefully this clears up any confusion out there. ?To be clear this websites name torontopoly is short for Toronto Polyamory.